Meet Benchmate. We're a new kind of matchmaker, supporting and connecting women at every stage of the fertility and parenting journey
Find the friend you didn’t know you needed—and soon won’t be able to live without.
Our mission at Benchmate is to lessen loneliness and increase connection on the journey to pregnancy and parenting. Our innovative peer-to-peer program matches you with someone who can relate to what you’re going through because they’re going through it too—sitting on the same bench as you, ready to cheer you up if you face a setback and cheer you on when you get good news.
How it works
You fill out a brief questionnaire
Our team of licensed therapists and experts reviews your information and reaches out with any follow-up questions to help with the matching process.
We connect you to another woman on a similar path as you, so that you don’t have to “sit alone on the bench.” You can expect to be connected to your Benchmate In 1–2 weeks, via text or email.
Two weeks after the Benchmate introduction has been made, we will reach out to you and request feedback to ensure that the match is the right fit.
If you are not feeling satisfied with the Benchmate you were matched with, we offer one additional re-match at no extra cost. .
Frequently asked questions
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We know that being part of a community—or even having just one “Benchmate” to talk to —can be a total game-changer for getting the support you need. Our hope is to match you with the person you didn’t know you needed and won’t be able to live without.
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Benchmate offers a 1-time match, with 1 complimentary re-match for $25. If you want more matches, there will be an additional $25 cost associated with each additional match.
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Yes! Sometimes people are grappling with multiple life changes or events, and we are here to help you make connections through all of it. For example, you can be connected with a Benchmate to help you navigate your first IVF retrieval and another to help you navigate your new move to the Upper East Side. Or, if you started Benchmate when you were struggling with infertility, and then become pregnant, we can find a new Benchmate for you who is also newly pregnant. For each additional match, you will be charged the $25 match fee.
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This will qualify for an automatic re-match (even if you have already used your one-time complimentary re-match.)
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Absolutely not! Some people prefer to have exclusive texting relationships, and others have fostered friendships involving in-person meet ups. Each match is unique and depends on the comfort level and preferences of the Benchmates who have been matched!
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“Thank you again for making this all happen. It’s obviously such an isolating time and having someone to talk to that’s gone through similar struggles has meant a lot.”
-AG, Benchmate Member
Making connections is what we do best
During a conversation in maternal health, Partof founder Amanda Warsavsky and psychotherapist Elizabeth Baron had an “aha moment.” There’s a huge missing link between women wanting to talk to someone who’s truly in their shoes, but not being able to find the right support person in that moment. That’s why we created Benchmate—a peer-to-peer model that gives women one-to-one support with someone who’s in the same life stage as they are. Making these matches is just the beginning and we’re so glad you’re here to join us.
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Amanda Warsavsky became a passionate “connector” after experiencing first-hand the struggles of multiple pregnancy losses while also juggling a busy career. She dedicates much of her time connecting with women in person, over the phone, via text, or via her Instagram.G, always trying to help them solve the mysteries around unexplained infertility.
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Elizabeth Baron has spent her career as a psychotherapist supporting new, expecting and seasoned moms on their journeys into and throughout motherhood. In addition to her clinical work, she is constantly opening her Rolodex to provide women with access to more resources and more providers, and has frequently joked with her clients that she wishes she could connect them with another client of hers– certain that they would feel so supported by one another if given the opportunity to connect and bond over their shared experiences. She strongly believes that while a therapist can help a woman on their climb up the metaphorical mountain of the infertility process, a friend can cheer them on through their victories and sit alongside them during their deepest struggles.